Life is 90% automated, so you don't have to remember how
• walk,
• drink from a glass,
• use a spoon.
Having acquired these skills at an early age, you no longer think about their technical side. The same principle works with life scenarios.
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By adopting the pattern of behavior in childhood, you act as you have learned in adult life and get the same result. The presence of a script in life is tracked by recurring events.
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For instance: in her youth, my mother was cold, indifferent or even rude treated you, and now you do the same with your children. There were constant quarrels in your parents' family. In those days, you dreamed of creating happy family. But now, have a row with your partner just like mom and dad. wherever you work, you are pursued by the same failures: they find fault with you, treat you unfairly, undeservedly offend you, do not appreciate what you deserve. You are trying to save money, but as soon as a small amount is collected, immediately spend it. With age, you begin to notice more often in yourself the similarity to your parents in reactions, gestures, words, actions. Having a script is a sign that you are living the life of your ancestors, not yours. You can, of course, continue to copy and reproduce their usual behavior, life attitudes. But does that make you happy? Perhaps as a child, you were given unproductive behaviors. Now you have grown up and can afford everything that is important to you.