You cannot come to joy in suffering. How can you come to joy, happiness and abundance if you direct all your attention to what you lack, what is wrong, what you are not happy with? Wherever attention - there we direct energy, ancient philosophers wrote about this. Where is your attention directed now? Do you really want to be where your attention is now? Why is it easier for you to direct your attention to what you don't want, to denial, resistance, struggle, or resentment?
⠀If there is attention, then you create it. Through the filter of this perception, you react to people and situations and, as a result, create a distorted reality in which you suffer.