You will not come to joy through suffering. How can you come to joy, happiness and abundance if you direct all your attention to what you lack, what is wrong, what is not satisfied with? Where attention is directed - there we direct energy, ancient philosophers wrote about this. Where is your attention now? Do you really want to be where your attention is right now? Why is it easier for you to direct attention to what you do not want, in denial, resistance, struggle or resentment?
If there is attention, then you create it. Through the filter of this perception, you react to people and situations and, as a result, create a distorted reality in which you suffer.